A Second Thought and Clarification

Wow, my last post has received a TON of comments on Facebook... some of which I have deleted at this point.
I thought that it would be appropriate at this time, to clarify some things and add some rational thoughts now that my rant has ended!

First, my rant was in no way intended to hurt, point fingers at, or blame anyone. My intention was purely a rant and the basis for my rant has not been shared with ANYONE (well, besides Rob, of course). So for those reading who think you know- I can assure you- you do not and we will leave it at that!

As for a Second Thought...

As one of my friends mentioned on Facebook (see my Facebook page for exact quotations), children were often told to "be quiet" about certain topics, and, because of this, we are seeing those affects. I am a firm believer that in order to experience any healing or freedom from past hurts/abuses that you MUST talk about them.

It's like AA: The first step is admitting you have a problem. The same is true with abuse/hurt: you have to admit that something was wrong in order to experience healing. I think that those who have bottled it in and try to "ignore" the problem somehow create the stigma that, "What happened to me is normal or right..." It is NOT! This is the reason that we don't have any accountability anymore. People hold on to the past, the hurts they have experienced and continually allow themselves to remain the victim. They use it as a crutch to rationalize their sins.

Think of it this way: "Talking" or Confession leads to healing (obviously it will never go away completely, but the scar will begin to fade); healing leads to forgiveness (which does NOT mean that the other person is right); forgiveness leads to freedom! It is only through forgiveness- no matter what the offense- that leads to freedom.

***As I mentioned briefly above: forgiveness does not give excuse to the offender. Instead, it leads the offended to a place of freedom from the offender; moves them from victim to victory!

The reason that my generation "overshares," in my opinion, is because of the abuse, hurt, and turmoil that were kept secrets for so long in previous generations. We now have probably swung too far to the opposite end of the spectrum with the hopes that if we "overshare," we won't miss something....

I hope this clarifies!