Annoyed....

I am noticing a difference in my generation and that of my parents' and grandparents'. While my generation literally talks about everything, theirs do not!

All of you twenty and thirty somethings out there know what I mean. There is not a topic that is too taboo to discuss these days. From bodily functions to the bedroom; we discuss our likes and dislikes, friends of a friend of a friend, family, the list is endless.

There are no skeletons in our closets....

Not so of previous generations. Lips are sealed, skeletons are desperately kept hidden, and, "We just don't talk about that," remains.

To be honest, it's annoying!

Sure I think that maybe my generation discusses a little too much- there really has become nothing private or sacred. But, the premise behind why previous generations do/did not discuss these issues is that they are/were concerned about how they would look or appear to society and the church. So, they pretend(ed) that everything is/was all good... "No issues here." "We are doing just fine." When really, individuals and families were literally tearing themselves apart.

I really hate pretending... really hate it.

If something is 'wrong' at home, don't act like everything is right.
If you are unhappy, that's ok... let's talk about it and get to the root of the problem.
If you have an addiction, let's talk and get some help.
If your job is sucking the life out of you, don't act like you enjoy it.
If you are unhappy in your marriage... well... you had better start talking about this one!

The church has, in part, caused a lot of this by saying, "Oh, well, we don't talk about that..." Why the heck not?! If the church discussed more of the issues that people were facing then we would have a larger body of believers, fewer people falling into addictions, and happier more joyful followers of Christ (at least in my opinion).
Christians have been told that they cannot talk about certain things. Oh not so! We are going to start discussing these things.
We can, and should discuss, why so many Christians are suffering from depression, fatigue, and a lack of desire to live; let's talk about why having a healthy sex life is important in a marriage; let's talk about homosexual and transgendered people, the issues surrounding it, and how to minister to this population...

Let's just talk.... be real.... and talk. We need to stop pretending!


Okay... rant over!